I have to confess I hate being asked the question “What do you do?” at parties. It’s not that I dislike the question itself, but rather I’m never sure what answer to give.
I know traditionally you are supposed to discuss your day job, but that seems like such a narrow focus. Yes I work as an engineer, but that’s only about 20% of my year. I hate to be literal and tell them I get a fair amount of sleep each night so that eats up about 31% of my year.
It’s that other 49% of my time that I have a hard time describing. Yes I write a lot and read a lot. I also like doing home improvement and visiting with friends or family. Being a husband and father also consume a fair amount of time. Not to mention all the day to day stuff like cooking, cleaning, running errands, and balancing my chequing account. Then there is attending parties and hosting dinners. Bascially most of my life happens in that other 49% of my time.
How do you describe that to someone you only just been introduced to? Then what happens when you retire. The standard answer is gone. Do you say your retired? Is that even a job title now? Or perhaps you give yourself a new title like ‘private wealth manager’? Or better yet do you answer “I’m seeking the absolute most happiness I can from every second I have left on this earth.”
If that is the case, why can’t I use that answer as well? My point of this ramble is we are much more than our day jobs. Don’t let yourself get too define by just one part of you life. Descibing your life should always feel like having to describe the contents of the Louve in a sentence. It’s impossible to do it justice.