Posted by Tim Stobbs on September 20, 2007
Often we talk of supports and we are referring to insurance or government programs like Employment Insurance. Supports are your nets to prevent you from falling. Today I want to talk about the ones which don’t involve money. I want to discuss family and friends.
A little background for newer readers out there. I used to live in northern BC for a few years where my nearest relative was 9 hours away by car and the bulk of my relatives were 13 to 15 hours away. I had a few friends, but I do understand being in a situation where you feel cut off from your non monetary supports.
It was an interesting time when I bought my first house in northern BC. I had many long discussions with my father on advice on how to fix something with the use of emailed photos and phone calls. So even then I still had some support. I didn’t realize how much until I moved back to Regina in 2006.
Now that I’m surrounded by family and friends again I have access to my full support network I can’t begin to estimate the cost savings they have provided in free advice, labour, borrowing of tools and gifts. So I also give back to them. I act as a causal labour on various construction projects, and my house has acted as a temporary storage warehouse a few times. I also continue to be there for them with an ear when they need to vent about something or provide my opinion when they need advice.
So in the end, take care of those around you. They are providing more than you know and you won’t understand h0w much until you leave them. No one is an island, we all need each other once and a while.