The Other Supports

Often we talk of supports and we are referring to insurance or government programs like Employment Insurance.  Supports are your nets to prevent you from falling.  Today I want to talk about the ones which don’t involve money.  I want to discuss family and friends.

A little background for newer readers out there.  I used to live in northern BC for a few years where my nearest relative was 9 hours away by car and the bulk of my relatives were 13 to 15 hours away.  I had a few friends, but I do understand being in a situation where you feel cut off from your non monetary supports.

It was an interesting time when I bought my first house in northern BC.   I had many long discussions with my father on advice on how to fix something with the use of emailed photos and phone calls.  So even then I still had some support.  I didn’t realize how much until I moved back to Regina in 2006.

Now that I’m surrounded by family and friends again I have access to my full support network I can’t begin to estimate the cost savings they have provided in free advice, labour, borrowing of tools and gifts.  So I also give back to them.  I act as a causal labour on various construction projects,  and my house has acted as a temporary storage warehouse a few times.  I also continue to be there for them with an ear when they need to vent about something or provide my opinion when they need advice.

So in the end, take care of those around you.  They are providing more than you know and you won’t understand h0w much until you leave them.   No one is an island, we all need each other once and a while.

6 thoughts on “The Other Supports”

  1. Great post. Having support close by with a young family is worth it’s weight in gold. We don’t have any family in the city and we get so jealous of the people that do.
    Trying to find a babysitter that is willing (and able) to watch a 1 and 3 year old can be difficult and we find it really limits what we do. Not to mention the added cost….

  2. Good post. Some people have forgotten the people in the system. What good is all this money grinding if you can’t enjoy your personal interactions (and your health)?

  3. Great post. When I discuss homelessness with people, they sometimes say “it could happen to any of us”. I’m fortunate in that unless I *REALLY* wanted to be on the street, I have friends and family who would kick my ass until I moved in with them (and I’d do the same for any of them – although I’d probably put them to work around my place if they were mooching off of me ;-).

  4. CD

    Having three sets of grandparents in the same town makes life much easier.

    Family support is so important and it makes the day to day stress of being a (new) parent a little easier to absorb.

    Q

  5. Chris,

    I remember the trouble getting a good sitter before we left northern BC. It’s not fun. Now we a little planning I can almost always find a sitter for free.

    Jim,

    Excellent point!

    Mr. Cheap,

    I know what you mean.

    Q,

    I’m really looking forward to the second kid for exactly that reason. We will have the support of our family regardless if this one comes early.

    Tim

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