Posted by Tim Stobbs on November 22, 2012
Crash, boom, bang. Oh crap!
I recently watched a friend of mine get into an accident. Afterwards I got to hear the full story of what happened and the string of curses about it. In this case, the accident was entirely his fault because he was being impatient in a parking garage. The ironic part of the story was he managed to drive home through the freezing rain and snow without any problems. Oh, the vehicle is like a week old. Yep, I understood my friend being upset.
I tried to make him feel better by pointing out it could be worse, which he asked how that could be. I pointed out you could have also lost your job and have no savings for the deductible for your insurance. While I’m not sure that really made him feel any better I often use the same tactic on myself.
When everything is going wrong I remind myself it could be worse, why? Because when I compare my situation to people who really do have it bad I have to nearly laugh at myself for getting upset over my oven element breaking and having to replace it. For example, I actually have some savings, I have a job, I have a house with positive equity, I don’t live in a temporary shelter, I’ve never lived through a massive natural disaster, my government is no where near defaulting on their national debt and I don’t live anywhere remotely near a war zone.
There is a very long list of people in the world who are rightly pissed off at the world and I really shouldn’t be one of them over the minor stuff in life. Perhaps I’m just an optimist that refusing to get sucked into thinking the world is an awful place when it fact it is a damn good place overall.
So how do you deal with the minor crap that happens in life? Do you think of how it could be worse or focus on what is going right?