Posted by Dave on July 17, 2012
This is a guest post by Dave, who is also looking to retire no later than 45, but unlike Tim has no kids and doesn’t want any. Dave is from Ontario and is working towards his CGA certification.
For those of you who have been reading my posts on this blog over the past few years, you are aware that I am somewhat eccentric. My dream home is under 300 square feet, I would love to Homestead a chunk of land and I am somewhat against not only me having children, but I think there are probably enough of us around that other people should probably give it a rest as well.
I have noticed that over the past few months or so, I have gotten more and more into reading topics either involving some sort of survivalist (think Zombie apocalypse) or off-grid living, such as a van, the aforementioned Tiny House, or some other situation that would put me away from people.
My wife and I have had discussions about what would happen if she wasn’t around, and I think she’s pretty aware that there is a possibility that I would turn into some sort of eccentric hill-billy somewhere. Given that I am not really alone in my current interests (there are more than a few extensive blogs that I can read that must have some sort of audience) it seems there are others that are a little disenchanted with the way life is currently going. I think that for me, retirement in my 40’s is a sort of Middle Ground, that would allow me to be eccentric, while still allowing me to A.) Keep my wife, who has shown no real interest in joining me in complete isolation and B.) Maintain friendships with friends and family – both A.) and B.) are very important to me.
This middle ground allows me to maintain my eccentric lifestyle (well, maybe planning for a Zombie Apocalypse is a little too far) and also keep my relationships intact. I think the path I am currently on wasn’t consciously picked to meet these goals, but it has sort of worked out that way…..either that or my wife has become more comfortable with my “quirks” (to put the term nicely).
I think to go too extreme in my lifestyle would perhaps alienate the people in my life that I would prefer to keep. I am happy with the middle ground I have chosen – although I am still leaving the door open to being a nutty bush-dweller.
Have you reached a middle ground? Have any of your personal relationships become strained due to lifestyle or financial choices you have made?