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Thursday, March 30, 2017

F*&% This

Posted by Tim Stobbs on May 11, 2011

As you might have guessed from the title of this post,  I’m a little frustrated at the moment.  I can’t go into all of the details at this time, but you know what the details don’t really matter.  The point is I almost had something wrapped up and then it went back into limbo mode for a few more weeks through no fault of my own.

I hate limbo.  I can handle my retirement savings plan taking years to execute, but with some things I still get impatient to have it over with.  This is one of those things and frankly I have tried distracting myself and I have tried keeping busy, but I still end up thinking about the issue when I have any free time at all.  Perhaps it is because I can’t do anything myself to move things forward (unlike my retirement plan which I do control a bit).  I’m stuck waiting for other people.

In the end, I’m in the perfect state of being to be useless on a lot of different things because I’m emotional.  Big decisions and investing should be avoided by me for the next week as I have previously learned from a course I took that when you get too emotional you literally get dumber.  In a nut shell what happens is if your flight or fight relax kicks in your blood drains away from your brain towards your body as ready to move and while that happens your higher brain functions slow down.  Thus when your emotional you do stupid things, because you are really dumber.  I tend to keep that fact in mind when I’m working with others and cut them some slack when they get emotional.

How about you?  What do you do when your stuck in limbo waiting for others to move something forward?  Frankly I could use the help with some ideas.

Comments

6 Responses to “F*&% This”
  1. When waiting for something, it is frustrating when it doesn’t happen in the time you want (or need) it to happen.

    Whether it’s a new job offer, a response, etc., one’s blood pressure can rise during the waiting period.

    Waiting can be a character builder. It can prepare you for future challenges and adventures.

    During the waiting time, try to do things that bring you enjoyment.

    Dive into your favourite hobbies, exercise, spend time with friends and loved ones and share with them your frustrations.

    Hope this helps, and thanks for your blog!

  2. Bruce says:

    “Waiting For” is a horrible catagory to be stuck in. I can’t tell you what you “should” do but what I do is all the little projects that seem to get pushed aside in favor of the “Big Picture” You know, the things like planning a holiday, calling the parents, reconnecting with old friends, networking with “stale”
    business connections, helping with someone else’s(kids in my case)projects, and the like.

    It dosen’t help with the frustration, but at least you will be busy enough not to notice…..maybe….

  3. John the contractor says:

    There is not a shred of evidence to suggest life should be taken too seriously. This too will pass.
    :)

  4. Kaye says:

    At least two days have passed since Dave posted this piece. It would be interesting to hear an update from him about where he is emotionally now. And I wonder what emotional means — angry? frustrated? sad? I say this because at the end of the day John the contractor is right. This too shall pass.

    I’ve been “emotional” about too many issues to count (or even recall) but they seemed SO important at the time. I am at a point in my life where I do recognize that I am giving my power away to others if I am emotional (angry usually) over something that I have no control over. And that lack of control is what really gets me at the gut level – I want control! Getting to recognition, then acceptance that I am not in control helps bring peace. Talking the issue over with a friend helps move this process along for me.

  5. Canadian Dream says:

    @Michael,

    Thanks for the tips. I made some extra time to just read a good book and that did seem to help.

    @John,

    Thanks for the reminder…it is starting to pass as time goes forward and the emotional intensity starts to drop off.

    Thanks everyone,
    Tim

  6. I am really not the most patient person by any means. In fact my hubby has to constantly slow me down. When I am expecting something to happen and it gets delayed I am an unhappy camper for sure. I find ways to fill my time so I get distracted and don’t think of the issue as much. I usually end up inventing more works and projects which my husband never likes. Oh well, keeps me from being grumpy.

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