Comments on: The Price of Judgement http://blog.canadian-dream-free-at-45.com/2010/06/11/the-price-of-judgement/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 17:31:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: JMK http://blog.canadian-dream-free-at-45.com/2010/06/11/the-price-of-judgement/comment-page-1/#comment-44233 JMK Sun, 13 Jun 2010 17:53:26 +0000 http://blog.canadian-dream-free-at-45.com/?p=1773#comment-44233 I tend to cut strangers some slack and if I see them spending on something that seems frivoulous, I tend to assume they must be cutting back in other areas and this is their one splurge. It probably isn't, but that's my first assumption. With people I know, unfortunately I tend to be more judgemental because I know more of the story. I know this isn't their only splurge, or that they constantly complain they can't have A but they spend wildly on B and refuse to see the connection. I wish I could turn it off, but it's difficult. If someone constantly complained that they hated their job, you'd suggest they change jobs and if they didn't and continued complaining you'd get frustrated. Same with spending in my mind. If you're doing everything possible and are still in a tough situation, that's different. Most people I know are in situations of their own making. I hesitate to offer advice at the risk of offending, but that doesn't stop me from thinking their being ridiculous. I tend to cut strangers some slack and if I see them spending on something that seems frivoulous, I tend to assume they must be cutting back in other areas and this is their one splurge. It probably isn’t, but that’s my first assumption.

With people I know, unfortunately I tend to be more judgemental because I know more of the story. I know this isn’t their only splurge, or that they constantly complain they can’t have A but they spend wildly on B and refuse to see the connection. I wish I could turn it off, but it’s difficult. If someone constantly complained that they hated their job, you’d suggest they change jobs and if they didn’t and continued complaining you’d get frustrated. Same with spending in my mind. If you’re doing everything possible and are still in a tough situation, that’s different. Most people I know are in situations of their own making. I hesitate to offer advice at the risk of offending, but that doesn’t stop me from thinking their being ridiculous.

]]> By: deegee http://blog.canadian-dream-free-at-45.com/2010/06/11/the-price-of-judgement/comment-page-1/#comment-44200 deegee Fri, 11 Jun 2010 18:18:37 +0000 http://blog.canadian-dream-free-at-45.com/?p=1773#comment-44200 SUVs are so common around here (and in many other areas) that just seeing someone driving one of them doesn't faze me much. It is when I see someone driving around one of those gas-guzzling Hummers that make me ask, "Why?" SUVs are so common around here (and in many other areas) that just seeing someone driving one of them doesn’t faze me much. It is when I see someone driving around one of those gas-guzzling Hummers that make me ask, “Why?”

]]> By: Len Currie http://blog.canadian-dream-free-at-45.com/2010/06/11/the-price-of-judgement/comment-page-1/#comment-44199 Len Currie Fri, 11 Jun 2010 17:21:12 +0000 http://blog.canadian-dream-free-at-45.com/?p=1773#comment-44199 This post is very similiar to the one I just posted about people judging people with nice cars.. http://www.lencurrie.com/2010/05/do-you-judge-people-with-nice-cars-shame-on-you/ I personally think the 'judging' is definitely human nature and it would a very tough habit to break if not impossible.. You can't help it. What I find interesting is how your perceptions change once you acquire something. For example a cell phone.. there are lots of people that can't afford a cell phone.. yet once they acquire one, they want a better one, and then a better one.. it's so hard to remember what it felt like to not have one at all... I think if people could do that! They'd be much more appreciative of their own, and other peoples acquisitions. This post is very similiar to the one I just posted about people judging people with nice cars..

http://www.lencurrie.com/2010/05/do-you-judge-people-with-nice-cars-shame-on-you/

I personally think the ‘judging’ is definitely human nature and it would a very tough habit to break if not impossible.. You can’t help it.

What I find interesting is how your perceptions change once you acquire something. For example a cell phone.. there are lots of people that can’t afford a cell phone.. yet once they acquire one, they want a better one, and then a better one.. it’s so hard to remember what it felt like to not have one at all… I think if people could do that! They’d be much more appreciative of their own, and other peoples acquisitions.

]]> By: Retired Syd http://blog.canadian-dream-free-at-45.com/2010/06/11/the-price-of-judgement/comment-page-1/#comment-44198 Retired Syd Fri, 11 Jun 2010 17:10:50 +0000 http://blog.canadian-dream-free-at-45.com/?p=1773#comment-44198 I can identify with this post, not because I judge people based on their spending habits (I don't, only because I really don't care.) But I do judge people based on their political beliefs (because I really do care) and I'm trying very hard to curb that tendency. You're right, we're all unique and it's probably worth the effort to try and respect that. I can identify with this post, not because I judge people based on their spending habits (I don’t, only because I really don’t care.) But I do judge people based on their political beliefs (because I really do care) and I’m trying very hard to curb that tendency.

You’re right, we’re all unique and it’s probably worth the effort to try and respect that.

]]> By: Canadian Money http://blog.canadian-dream-free-at-45.com/2010/06/11/the-price-of-judgement/comment-page-1/#comment-44194 Canadian Money Fri, 11 Jun 2010 14:58:27 +0000 http://blog.canadian-dream-free-at-45.com/?p=1773#comment-44194 I think it has to do with how the human mind works at a fundamental level. We can't understand anything at all unless we have something to compare our thoughts and our sensory inputs to. Good, better, best is a relative comparison. Rich or poor is a relative to someone else type of comparison. I think it has to do with how the human mind works at a fundamental level. We can’t understand anything at all unless we have something to compare our thoughts and our sensory inputs to.

Good, better, best is a relative comparison. Rich or poor is a relative to someone else type of comparison.

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