Posted by Tim Stobbs on February 10, 2010
Occasionally in life I feel the need to be absolutely brutally honest with people. I usually don’t do it to hurt the other person, but rather make a point strongly. I find I can be misunderstood at times because I was trying to be too nice about my wording. I never suspected that my financial situation would actually cause me to be more brutally honest with people.
Since realizing I technically don’t need my day job I’m giving myself permission to be more honest with people. At work is likely the biggest change, where I don’t have a problem telling someone: no or being honest in the fact I won’t get to something until next week or even next month. Yet I’ve also noticed it in other conversations. Recently I was discussing retirement with a family member and I was point blanked asked: when do you want to retire? Up until now I have always said something like: “Oh, 55 would by nice,” since I’ve never been comfortable taking about my dream to retire at 45 with family. That day I actually said “50 or less. Heck 45 would be ideal.” I think my family member thought I was joking.
Which is a hazard of dreaming big with my financial goals. People really just can’t wrap their heads around the concept that it is possible to retire at 45. They fail to understand I’m seriously trying to get there and yes I’ve done the math and it is a real possibility. So while even being brutally honest with people I confuse them. Not really because I was unclear, but rather they are not willing to accept the truth.
So in the future I’ve realized being honest is the right way to go. Not everyone will get it, so I won’t have to explain myself to everyone. The reality won’t likely hit them until I actually quit my day job, which is fine for me.