Posted by Tim Stobbs on October 27, 2009
As promised here is the first of two guest posts of candidates looking to post for the blog on a regular basis. To make things completely fair I’m not giving you any names or background details on the blogger, but rather just the post. I want feedback just on the writing. The candidates of course can response to any comments but please use an alternative screen name, such as Candidate #1, rather than you usual name for commenting. Candidates should make sure to use your email address so I can verify your comment(s). Thanks – Tim
I live in a smallish 1,000 square foot condo townhouse with my wife, in a DINK* household. Neither my spouse nor I have any plans of changing our family situation in the future and are quite content of maintaining a childless household. This lifestyle is contrary to a majority of couples who feel that the point of marriage is children and a family. My wife and I don’t mind children, but at some point in visits with family and friends we are always ready to be done with their infants and children. Maybe this patience is learned, but to us, it doesn’t seem like something worth learning, and doesn’t seem to be something that would enrich our lives.
Financially, not having children makes a lot of sense, with the average cost of raising children in North America approximately $250,000 but our decision is not based on financial reasons, it is more based on happiness. We as a couple are quite content in our lives and don’t feel that children would bring us closer together, rather it seems that an addition to our family would push us apart, as time that we could spend doing things together would be allocated to doing things with a child (which I know we could do together with the child, but it would be different). There would be less sleep for a while, which is something that we both enjoy, and less time to do things that we like to do.
A childless couple can sometimes be seen as selfish, but on the flipside in a world where families are having 8-18 children and it is getting more and more overpopulated by the day, it is probably good that some couples decide not to add to the numbers. We enjoy our ability to pick up and leave for weekends with a small suitcase and a compact car, rather than loading up a mini-van with half the stuff in the house. We like to quietly sit and read at the end of the day, and wake up when we want to on weekends – essentially, we enjoy the freedom to be selfish, to do what we want when we want to do it, something I don’t think is possible if there are children involved.
Maybe in 50 years (I am 30 right now) we will regret our decision to remain childless, but I don’t really think that this will be the case, this decision was not made lightly and as agreed when it was initially brought it up, can be revisited by either my wife or I if our viewpoints change at any time.
*DINK = dual income no kids